R.I.P. -- remembering through my friend's favourite song: music unites us!

My recently deceased friend's favourite song...he was from the US Virgin Islands and I am from Jamaica, but it never ceases to amaze me how dancehall, reggae, and other music unites people across national, cultural, racial, socio-economic, and even religious barriers...



Playing it in memoriam...

So I was asked "What's your definition of a REAL MAN?"

This Facebook anonymous Q&A status game has gone viral, and now they are doing it elsewhere.  If you don't know, it's where someone asks you a question, any question, and you post it up without identifying who asked, and post the answer, in the format Q: then A:...

This question is one many women need to ask themselves and maybe it will help them determine who is real and who is a fraud as they navigate the stormy seas of the dating/mating "game."  Keep in mind these are MY answers and I am not prescribing them for anyone, just posting my own thoughts!  Let me know what you think!

Q: What is your definition of a real man?

A: 

He's strong (and I do not mean physically).

He has genuine respect for women, especially for his woman.

He has a healthy normal relationship with his mother if she's in his life and same for the father if he's in his life...if they are not proper parents then a real man has learned or been taught the proper relationship between a man and a woman and between that pair and a child by another couple or set of couples.

He has manners.

He has ambition and has evidence of being able to actually apply it to his life.

He has great problem-solving and critical thinking skills...you know, leadership abilities.

He inspires me.

He causes me to admire him without effort on his part, just the way he naturally is is admirable...

He is hardworking.

He is honest and can do it without being rude.

He may not be perfect, but when things are brought to his attention, he really tries...

He can form a monogamous, loving, and passionate bond with a woman. (As opposed to a professional gyallis who needs someone to justify settling down to him cause he literally sees no advantage to not whoring around.)

He is not afraid of the spiritual aspect of life and can hold real conversations about his beliefs and mine without drama. 

He is a positive person.

He enjoys life, and doesn't merely survive through it.

He knows himself and his flaws, and knows a good woman along with/in spite of her flaws when he sees one.

lemme stop yah lol. 

Ever wondered about the Gideons (the organization that puts Bibles in hotels)?

I happened to come across a link to the Gideons website while looking up something about Bibles, and read their history.  It's quite interesting, and the introduction site before you choose a location shows that they are all over the world in more places than you would think!  I like how they have come far since they started over 100 years ago and have embraced technology and have a really attractive site!  Sometimes religious organizations tend to have websites that are not user-friendly or don't have clear and CURRENT information.  And I think for folks like me that research everything on the web, and shop around for information and products and events on the web, having your web presence up to par and your site's "game face on" no matter what your purpose is VERY important!

They are on Facebook...but there are several pages for them, so I am not clear which is official.  When I searched for them, the most popular one that showed up first is the group in Canada...the one with the most people who "like" the page is Gideons Indonesia, as far as I can tell!  I think they could work on this by noting an official page with links to regional/national pages.

I'm just noting how a traditional part of our lives, religion, is coming into its own with the 21st century and the Information Age. :-)